Mother’s Day ‘Momories’ Straight from the Heart

One of my most treasured inheritances from Mom is a photocopied poem, surrounded by a hand-made sussy purple oval, held in a clunky, old wooden frame.

The poem is called “Warning”, by Jenny Joseph. It’s not long:

“When I am an old woman I shall wear purple
With a red hat which doesn’t go, and doesn’t suit me.
And I shall spend my pension on brandy and summer gloves
And satin sandals, and say we’ve no money for butter.
I shall sit down on the pavement when I’m tired
And gobble up samples in shops and press alarm bells
And run my stick along the public railings
And make up for the sobriety of my youth.
I shall go out in my slippers in the rain
And pick flowers in other people’s gardens
And learn to spit.

You can wear terrible shirts and grow more fat
And eat three pounds of sausages at a go
Or only bread and pickle for a week
And hoard pens and pencils and beermats and things in boxes.

But now we must have clothes that keep us dry
And pay our rent and not swear in the street
And set a good example for the children.
We must have friends to dinner and read the papers.

But maybe I ought to practice a little now?
So people who know me are not too shocked and surprised
When suddenly I am old, and start to wear purple.

I love that poem, and the fact that it meant so much to Mom.

And I treasure a tattered old photocopied poem that became special to Mom towards the end. She gave a copy to all three of us kids sometime before she died in 1996.

On my copy, she scrawled “Billy” and the swirly strokes you do when trying to get a pen to start writing.


When I am gone, release me, let me go —
I have so many things to see and do.

You mustn’t tie yourself to me with tears,
Be happy that we had so many years.

I gave you my love. You can only guess
How much you gave to me in happiness.

I thank you for the love you each have shown,
But now it’s time I traveled on alone.

So grieve awhile for me if you must
Then let your grief be comforted by trust.

It’s only for awhile that we must part
So bless the memories with your heart.

I won’t be far away, for life goes on
So if you need me, call and I will come.

Though you can’t see and touch me, I’ll be near —
And if you listen with your heart you’ll hear
All of my love around you soft and clear.

And then, when you must come this way alone,
I’ll great you with a smile, and “Welcome home.”

But that one troubled me, too.

Because at times, in my sorrow, I have called Mom. And she didn’t come. Or at least I didn’t hear her, or feel her.

But recently she did come, when I was at a time of real difficulty, and she touched my heart.

I was tidying up my home office when I came upon an unlined, 3 x 5 card written in Mom’s unmistakable “chicken scratchings”.

She had probably copied it from an Al-Anon book. And she was giving it to me. Because even though I haven’t lived amongst alcoholism for 40 years, I still suffer from the “isms”.

The fading card says:

“We have in our head what it takes to be well.
We become what we think.
Whatever I choose to believe becomes true for me.
Forgiveness is the answer to almost everything.
Love is always the answer to healing of any sort,
and the pathway to love is forgiveness.”

Rest in Peace Wanda June Moore.

I love you and still miss you.

Thanks for coming.

2 Responses to “Mother’s Day ‘Momories’ Straight from the Heart”

  1. J-P says:

    I still miss her everyday. And I knew what poem you were going to write, before you wrote it.

    I miss my Gammy, but know that I will see her again.



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